It’s a bit different this year!


 Normally I like my birthdays, every one is pleasant and many let me know they are thinking of me. This year is a little harder. This is the first birthday of 58 years that my mother won’t be calling me at 10:30 am to say “Happy Birthday, Baby Girl”. It’s one of those things we may take for granted, although I didn’t. I actually loved the tradition of my mom calling all of her children at the time they were born. Right up into her 87th year, she didn’t forget. Unfortunately, she passed away just 6 days after my birthday last year. So this year with that missing phone call and the first anniversary of her death approaching, it stings!

I think with losing my mother in law just a little over 3 weeks ago and the stress and chaos surrounding that (see previous blog), I’m in a funk anyway. Watching Mike’s health decline is an on going battle and the stress his brother & niece have caused hasn’t helped. Yesterday at work, there was a pot stirrer among us, stuff like that usually rolls off my back, but with the mountain of stress Ive been under this past month, the little things are starting to get to me.

Once again, I just wanted to vent in my blog, it helps. Maybe now I can let it go and enjoy the 58th anniversary of my birth. Being positive is what I strive for every day, But, some days the crap piled on just gets to me.

No matter how a day is going though, I will always seek and find the blessings God has given to me. Today I am blessed with many friends, another day on the right side of the dirt, fun students, a husband, children and grandchildren who love me and a God who never fails me.

Jesus Christ is the same yesterday, today & forever. Hebrews 13:8

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