Opinion vs Judgements

For you created my inmost being: you knit me together in my mother's womb. Psalm 139:13

It seems to me that a person who calls themselves a Christian is not allowed by many to have an opinion on certain issues without being accused of judging, An example that weighs heavy on my heart and mind is the pro-life vs pro-choice debate which has come to the forefront again due to the overturning of Roe vs. Wade.

First and foremost, I think both sides of the debate agree that the government should have nothing to do with abortion. I can easily explain why I am considered pro-life but why can't I feel the way I feel without a pro-choicer trying to change my mind? I truly try hard not to judge others. I believe that God, our creator is and should be the only judge. I am friends with several people who have opted to get abortions and although it saddens me, it is not up to me to judge them. I truly believe the decision is between them and God. On the flip side, I don't think I should be judged for my feelings. I have not and would not stop being friends or stop loving a person who chose or chooses abortion, but at the same time, I would not enable someone by lending them the money to get the procedure done, nor would I give them a ride to the clinic or doctor to have it done. Does this make me judgemental of a bad friend? I don't think so, I think it makes me true to myself and my own convictions. I would definitely pray for the person because I don't think anyone could make a decision like that and not feel some kind of remorse, sadness, guilt, doubt, or regret. I would also pray for the fetus (baby) as nerves are one of the first things to develop.

I have a hard time understanding why an amoeba or a bacteria is considered to be life, yet an embryo is not, even though an embryo has a beating heart at just five weeks gestation. At six weeks the embryo's brain and nervous system develop. The process that begins to generate the nervous system begins after the fourteenth day of gestation. 

Some of the arguments I've heard are that adoption is a long, expensive process and there are a lot of hoops to jump through. My opinion is that if our government wants to be involved in this, they could make the adoption process easier and less expensive. I also do not agree that a necessary medical procedure for a nonviable baby and a mother with a high probability of losing her life should be called an "abortion". It should be called a medical procedure or a medically necessary termination. Pro-lifers ask "what about the case of rape or incest?" Again, I am not walking in this person's shoes but I personally don't think, in fact I know, I still would not make the decision to abort the child. Yes, it may have been conceived out of unthinkable circumstances, but who are we to say that God doesn't have great plans for that life? I believe if exceptions were to be made because of something horrific such as rape, many girls who feel not ready to have a baby, may claim rape when in fact it could have been the result of consensual sex. If this was to happen, not only would the baby be killed under false pretenses, the father would be considered a rapist. Statistics show that only 5% - 8%  of rapes result in pregnancy according to the American Journal of Obstetrics and Gynecology. www.ajog.org

Another argument is "my body, my choice" what about the baby's growing body? What about their voice or their choice? Then what about the father? If the pregnancy is the product of a rapist or incest, then no, the father should in my opinion be stripped of his rights and should be in jail, however, what if the pregnancy is the product of consensual sex? Why should only the mother have the right to choose? why should the father have no say? it's his baby too after all.

I do understand what a controversial subject this is but as I said at the beginning of this writing, why can't I have my own opinion or feelings without someone trying to convince me to feel otherwise or why is it ok for them to judge me for feeling the way I do?