Words are cheap…


 

                                                                         Words Are Cheap

"If you need anything, please let me know." Famous last words. I wonder if people just say this because they don't know what else to say when someone is going through trials or carrying burdens that seem too heavy for one person alone to bear, Do they secretly hope the offer of their help will never be called upon?

I just don't understand why people carelessly throw around words they don't mean. When I see someone in need, I usually say "if there is anything I can help you with, please ask", because I am realistic, I know I can't help with everything, but I can give a person the things I own, such as clothing, food or my time, I am not rich, but I will give the little money I have if it will help a person who needs it more than I do. I know that God will always provide for me, especially if I am doing his work.

Throughout my life, I have been blessed in more ways than I can count. God has used people, sometimes the ones I would least expect, to help me in my time of need, even without my asking. I don't forget these blessings and I thank God every day for them. However, I am human and today I am feeling a bit discouraged. Although I get pleasure in helping others, it is very difficult for me to ask for help. This week, I did ask. My husband had surgery last week, a toe amputation, and is not able to drive right now. I sent out a group text to 9 people asking if anyone could give my husband a ride to 3 upcoming doctor appointments. After just having surgery myself, I am out of sick time and can't afford to take time out of work. I gave those I had asked 5 days notice and not one has acknowledged my request. I'm not even upset if nobody can help, I understand that everyone has busy lives but is it too much to ask to at least acknowledge the request? I separately texted one of my sons, he was also part of the group text and hadn't responded, but I knew he was off on Sunday and Monday night, so I asked again, he did step up and took his dad to the doctor this morning so that I didn't have to take the time out of work. That was a big help and appreciated by both of us. As for the other 2 dates, tomorrow being one of them, I'm still only hearing crickets. I will take the time out of work because I have no choice, but I have no doubt God will provide.

For anyone who may stumble across this blog. just a word of advice, mean what you say and say what you mean. it's now a hard concept.

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